While discussing the bipartisan seating arrangement on Fox News, Wall Street Journal reporter Stephen Moore described sitting next to someone from the other party during the State of the Union like "Date Rape." 

I've heard this analogy before. Students, leaving a particularly difficult exam might say "that exam raped me." A sports fan (or player) might describe a brutal loss by saying "we got raped out there." I'm asking those people to stop, think about the message they're sending, and stop doing it. 

A reasonable response to my critique of the use of the word rape in these situations might say, but people say also use the word "killed" in all of those situations- which is widely considered to be a worse offense than rape- and you're not complaining about them.

I understand that hyperbole is a common and accepted literary device. I've said similar things- probably murdered, massacred, and suicide- all in reference to the end of the Red Sox 2011 season. But, there are several substantive differences when people talk about rape.

First- most victims of rape survive- and then are subject to being re-victimized when they hear people talk about something like a tough exam in the same words they use to describe being sexually violated. Second- rape is far more common than murder and when you use the word around others, you are far more likely to do so around someone whose life has been touched by it. Third- while most murders know that their crime is both a crime and abnormal, rapists don't think that their actions are rape, and that those rapists think they are normal. 

So, when a potential rapist hears the word rape (or other language regarding sexual assault) as a substitute or description of an uncomfortable or difficult situation that doesn't have anything to do with assault or violence, it can send them the wrong message: rape is normal, not a big deal.

It's not. 19 out of 20 men would never rape someone. Rape is a brutal crime. Sitting next to someone you disagree with might be uncomfortable for some (you might hope that elected politicians are used to it), but it's not a violation of one's body or one's right to sexual autonomy. It's time we stopped using that word to describe something like sitting next to someone of a different political party.

Thanks to The Raw Story for finding this clip.